This is a very controversial issue, but I ask that each reader respectfully read and agree or disagree with grace. One of the reasons the answer to this is so controversial is that many people have been given the answer by people who mean well but have not studied the Bible as a whole. My grandparents were all great people, but I did not agree with everything they said. Even if you agree with the conclusion and it brings comfort, you may not agree with me theologically. I do not have to agree with you to treat you with dignity and respect. That is my prayer for all who read and those who choose to comment.
Now on to the biblical answer…
I know many people who believe that if a person commits suicide, he or she has no hope of going to Heaven even if that person had a relationship with Jesus Christ. I have asked why they believe that. Most all of them say the same thing: that person didn’t get to confess that sin. I asked a deacon who engaged in this discussion with me this question: “What if you got into a car accident that killed you because you lusted after a woman and drove off a mountain to your death? You wouldn’t have time to confess that sin. Jesus says you commit adultery in your heart when you lust after a woman (Matthew 5). Would you go to hell?” I asked him if he believed in eternal security. He said yes. He then concluded that he didn’t want a theological argument to sound like it justified someone committing suicide. If dying with unconfessed sin sends us to hell, we would all be there because most people I know lie when someone asks them how they are doing. They say “fine” when they’re really not. There has to be a standard of righteousness, and His name is Jesus. Hold onto that thought, because I’m coming back to it.
Many people choose to live without hope of seeing a believing loved one again who committed suicide because it goes against what a family member said or even by their own conclusion. Not everyone goes to Heaven. Only those who enter into a relationship with Jesus Christ do. That includes those who committed suicide. I would like to continue to prove this thought from the Bible.
When a person turns from sin and turns to Jesus Christ for salvation, the Holy Spirit enters that person. Scripture says that we are SEALED by the Holy Spirit until the day of redemption (Ephesians 4:30). This is not a leaky seal. It is also not a license to live like the devil and cross the finish line into Heaven. Romans 6:1 says, “Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? God forbid!”
Furthermore, the person who turns to Jesus Christ is positionally righteous. This does not mean that he or she loses the ability to sin. The temptation still exists, but God changes a growing believer’s desires to be more like His.
Second Corinthians 5:21 says, “For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.” Jesus Christ took on our sin, and we “become the righteousness of God in Him”. James 2:23 says that Abraham believed God and it was accounted to him for righteousness. This doctrine is called “imputed righteousness”, meaning that Christ places this to our account. The phrase “everlasting life” is not just about our life after death. It starts when a person turns to Christ for salvation.
In conclusion, I am offering hope to those who have lost a Christian loved one to suicide. I am not offering suicide as an option for people to take to escape their troubles. I know some may choose to read this and still disagree, but please prayerfully consider the Bible over what someone else told you. This applies to every area of life. Don’t take someone’s word without doing some study for yourself! That includes what I have to say😀.