You Don’t Have Time for Me?

I was going through my Twitter feed and saw where one of the people I follow was weeding out some of those he follows. He was apologetic, but he stated his reasoning for doing so.

I have been amazed at the people to whom I have had access to over my ministry. Some are of notoriety while others are not as known. These people have contacts across the nation and around the world, yet they took an hour of their time to talk to me or encourage me. That means the world to me!

Why do people not take time for you? Here are some of my observations.

  1. They do not view you as important. They do not see you as someone who will help them advance, therefore they will not make time for you.
  2. They may be poor time managers and give more attention to other things while they know they would give you more time than they really have once they call you or take your call. (I could talk all day, so I understand this dilemma. I want to talk to people, but I want to give them tons of time.)
  3. They may not understand the value of investing their time into you. When I was in full-time church ministry, I grew to learn the importance of taking time to help people develop their gifts. I was more than just my job. I want to equip people who could do my job and potentially end up doing it better than I could. That’s smart business. Building an organization that is dependent upon you is a setup for failure.

What would you add to this?

17 thoughts on “You Don’t Have Time for Me?

  1. I have a couple of people in my life who are notorious for using the phrase “I don’t have time for that”. It especially comes flying out when others of us are discussing quilting, crafting or other such nonsense in their opinion.

    Although the comment comes out sounding quite negative I think they want to participate in the conversation but don’t know how. All it takes is the quick question, what DO you have time for? Relationship building takes care and work.

  2. My problem is that the more people follow me and I follow them back, the more time I have to devote to commenting and reading what they wrote. I love doing all this. I feel privileged to get to know another human being whom God died for and loves.

    But, it is now taking me hours to read every blog and I have my mom to take care of and my husband to cook for. I have a house that needs cleaning and hobbies I like to pursue. Most important of all, I have a God who wants to spend time with me, as crazy and wonderful as that sounds. I try to always put him first, because without him, I couldn’t do all the other things.

    So, now I feel bad I can’t keep up with the blogs I am following. I did give up posting on Facebook because of WordPress blogs. I felt it was more important to spend time here. I quit Twitter a long time ago. I think maybe other people have the same problem I do, so I don’t expect everyone to visit and comment. Lol We all only have so much time in the day.

    1. There is no way I could keep up with all the people I follow here or the ones who follow me. As much as I like to post daily, there were days this last week where work and family took priority. We cannot do everything. I wrote this from the perspective of seeing people who pick and choose based on what others can do for them. Not everyone is in this category.

  3. I would add being able to identify people’s strengths and weaknesses and steering them into positions that encourages growth in their strengths so that they can be a master or at least one thing and be excellent at it rather than being placed in any “ministry” or position and be a jack of a trade that they cannot master. That is a set up for failure in my own opinion based on my own experience with what I’ve seen in a ministry that thrived on “nepotism” as it people resource for people placement in ministries that were not aligned to their characters and destiny and resulted in stunted growth in the ministry rather than choosing to truly acknowledging the true strength of those that really could bring about growth in a ministry if given the chance and opportunity regardless of their status, appearance and who they knew in the ministry. – Sherline.

  4. Perhaps they were so caught up in their own events and circumstances they were unable to interact outside of their own perimeters. Too, they were undergoing great emotional pain, felt guilty and shied away from people as a result to personalize and internalize problems.

  5. I myself actually usenthe phrase, “I don’t have time” a lot and it generally pertains to my Bible Reading but in 2018, I want to be more intentional about my reading the Word of God.

  6. Or, sometimes people take on too many relationships…Psychologists tell us that we really only have limited ability to relate to many well… I think it is something like a 1:100-300 ratio? I can’t remember. But this is why a Pastor can’t do it “all” once a church grows beyond a certain number. I believe that is why Moses’ Father-in-Law suggested that Moses accept help. Moses was trying to care for everyone… and he was just one man. Some try to do it all and don’t recognize their limitations. It’s important to prioritize and understand that we cannot do it all. 🙂 Happy 2018, Matthew! You inspire and encourage me regularly with your thought-provoking and wise posts!

  7. Good food for thought here, Matthew. The truth is, we were only designed to care about and interact with a small number of people, a tribe if you will. The internet, blogging, the world at large, brings a lot more people into our lives then we can handle. Of course, some people only need you for a season, and then new people come your way,so it is a moving and ever changing thing. I really like how Jesus Christ designed His church, the local church kind of being like our tribe, our family amid a much larger family.

    That said however, I like to remember the parable of the persistent widow, or the woman with the issue of blood,or the one who insists “even the dogs eat the crumbs.” The world we live in, our culture, tends to slam too many doors in people faces. We ourselves sometimes need to be as persistent as that widow was in getting her needs met, but also when someone is knocking at our own door, “I don’t have time” or “you are of no interest to me” is the wrong answer in a Christian sense. Don’t forget to entertain angels, God may have sent them to you for a reason. 🙂

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