Fitting In

Many of us go through life trying to “fit in”. In an attempt to be accepted by an individual or group of people, we pretend to be someone we are not. From a totally different angle, some of us are comfortable with who we are while being unable to fit in our clothes. That’s where I am.

We can respond to this a few different ways:

  1. We can change the outside. We do this by getting clothes that fit. In this, we are changing the environment to fit us. It is a form of change, but we have made no personal change other than a new outfit or wardrobe. I’m not saying that is wrong. Changing the environment (wardrobe) to suit us may be the best option because our physique is where it should be.
  2. We can change the inside. This will demonstrate itself outwardly. If we lose weight or develop muscle, we are changing what goes into the clothes as well as the clothes themselves.

What do I recommend? I would recommend the latter. Any of us can try to force what is close to us to change, but it takes work to make personal changes. Our personal changes can lead to a chain reaction where we influence change around us.

You and I were created to stand out. Play it safe if you wish, but God has put a pioneer spirit within me. Be a trendsetter! Walk into the room and set the thermostat! I’m not talking about changing the temperature on a little box. Be the kind of person who walks into a room and sets the atmosphere because of the type of person you are. May your positive energy bring joy and influence.

While you may look at “fitting in” as a problem, it may be a blessing in disguise. I spent years trying to fit in, only to discover that I was in an environment that stifled me. I had to be in a situation where I could help change the atmosphere. Don’t settle for less! Choose to stand out! It’s the only way you will make a difference.

8 thoughts on “Fitting In

  1. It is difficult to come up with a theologically-profound comment while still traumatized by the fact that I just bought a new pair of jeans (only the third pair I own) a size smaller than I normally wear. Will I look like that guy in the picture? Will I be depressed if I have to return them? Yes, trying to fit in can be traumatizing 😉

  2. It’s crazy that I learned this at an easy age. Maybe I got rejected my many of my “friends” at such an early age but it was a lesson that has stuck with me. We are fearfully and wonderfully made! Those “friends” made me who I am, and I hate being part of the mold. I love sticking out and the real friends I have today are also considered family now. Great post!

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