Although I have a degree in leadership, I do not consider myself to be the epitome of what a leader should be. I do, however, know some principles that are helpful for people in leadership in various sectors.
I have worked for larger entities where relatives did not work together. Hiring was handled by a Human Resources manager who was very objective in his/her hiring choices. Most of my work has been in church or smaller business settings where friends tend to hire friends. If you are a person of principle who can separate work from friendship, this works fine. Most of the time, I have seen it backfire. Why does it backfire?
- The person in charge holds friends to a lower standard and others to a higher standard. Subjectivity becomes the means of operation. When push comes to shove, the head person’s home boy or home girl will get away with murder while a case may be built against you. This is even worse when family is hired. I think it should be said that blood runs thicker than work ethic and principle.
- This favoritism breeds an atmosphere of jealousy. I’ve seen pastors allow certain staff members to roll up in the office at 11 am because they slept in after playing video games all night. Then they would leave at 2:30 to go watch a movie with their favorite people while other staff members had to hold the 9:00-5:00 office hours.
Leadership leaves no room for favoritism. Read the Bible. You will see that favoritism led to a world of family problems (ie Rebekah and Isaac). It does the same in the workplace. Be fair and objective. Otherwise, you are breeding an environment that will become toxic and may ultimately lead to poor performance among your staff.