When people think of conflict resolution, they often carry this idea that “happily ever after” is the result. This is rarely, if ever, the case. Peacemakers, and especially peacekeepers, want to see conflicts resolved. Sometimes, they will never be resolved. You may not want to think this, but it’s okay if some conflicts are never resolved.
I have been asked about certain conflicts I have encountered in ministry. I would love to say that everyone with whom I have experienced conflict has been full of the Holy Spirit. Some were filled with the evil spirits of division, self-promotion, and preacher hatred. I discovered that I would never achieve resolution with these people.
Does that bother me? Absolutely! I would love to sit down with everyone with whom I disagree and be able to laugh despite our disagreements. Some would never give me the chance. Once again, that’s okay.
How should we respond? Matthew 10:14 says, “And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear your words, when ye depart out of that house or city, shake off the dust of your feet.” If you have done all you can to make things right, move on. Don’t live trapped in yesterday with hopes that you will win the person over. Will your heart break because you wanted resolution? Yes. Will it take time for that to heal? Yes. Learn the lessons, allow yourself to heal, and understand that conflicts are inevitable. Even if the “happily ever after” never comes, you can leave it in the Lord’s hands and rest.
Disclaimer: The above picture does not resemble me and my wife in any way😀.