Stop Delegating Biblical Training to Church Leaders!

Today is a day when most people who attend church are consumers. They want the best in programs for all ages. I am a firm believer that the Christian community should be the first to do things with excellence. Excellence is defined differently based upon the resources you have. If I base my standard of excellence based on a megachurch with a million dollar budget, I might as well close shop and go home.

Here is the problem. Many parents think the quality of the youth or children’s ministry is the answer. If their child is not behaving right, many of these parents think that the church is the answer to the problem. The pastor, youth pastor, or volunteers must do more. My question is directed to parents: How much are you doing between Sunday services to disciple your children? If you are making some excuse about not being theologically trained or ministers being experts, that is a cop out. We have gotten this thing screwed up along the way.

If you think this is simply my opinion, let the Scripture speak for itself. Deuteronomy 6:4-9 says, “”Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” To simplify this: Parents, study the Bible for yourselves so you can teach AND model it before your children EVERY DAY!

The church is only a supplement to what you and I should be doing at home. There is no way around that. Preachers can’t make house calls every day for family devotions. Dads and moms, step up and do it. I’m preaching to myself here. Although biblical conversations happen frequently, I could be much more intentional in discipling my family.

Don’t wait to make this a New Years resolution! Start now! Who knows how much time we have left? Invest while you still have time.

19 thoughts on “Stop Delegating Biblical Training to Church Leaders!

  1. This is great. We tried getting our unchurched grandson into VBS this summer. It was a disaster and he was kicked out after 3 days. It broke my heart but now I see why. Please pray with us for for our son-in-law to come to the Lord and our daughter to return to her faith. She was raised in the Church and yes, we did discipline her as directed in the scriptures. But her two boys are just running wild…..

    1. I will definitely pray with you about this. I want to be quick to say that home discipleship will not make perfect children. I know many godly parents who lived out the truth before their children, and their children made a decision to take a different path. We so desperately need to pray for today’s parents. The enemy is attacking the home big time.

      1. Amen! The evil one put a stranglehold on the family when they took prayer out of the schools in 1963 or so. We prayed at the start of our school day when I was in school, elementary thru high….we saw the family disintegrating in my teens….two generations ago.

  2. We live in a blame shifting world. As a youth leader, I understand the expectation and pressure from parents. I often wonder why the magic they expect me to perform in a one hour meeting cannot be performed by them at home. The home is a child’s first school, church and world. Church is very important but the journey should always begin at home. We build on what parents do in church.

  3. Matthew, this is a huge issue. We have a fairly robust young people’s ministry, and it’s difficult to untrain in a couple of hours a week the negative things they are trained in at home. It’s tough to strike a balance between keeping good order and denying some kid the chance to hear the Gospel. At what point does the need for one young person to be able to hear Biblical teaching override the fact that he or she may be so difficult that others don’t get to hear it as a result? I don’t know, and that was an actual question. The struggle with reaching out to the parents of these young people seems useless at times, as in many cases they actually see the day or two they spend with us as a way to not have to mess with them, and the last thing they want to do it seems is actually participate with them in something like this. Many young people, few answers.

  4. Oh, no kidding! I have very clumsily tried to disciple my kids as an everyday thing. It was easier when they were tiny and we homeschooled – every day was an immersion… Still, hindsight and all that… I’ve recently been convicted that I haven’t always shared my “God moments” – those times when I’ve seen Him show up or those things through which I can look back and say, “Thus far, the Lord has helped us.” Last year, I had the idea of an Ebenezer on my heart but I was being too literal. I’ve stared an “Ebenezer journal” and talked to all the family about it. My prayer is that they will read it – if not now, then someday.

    It’s a tough season because our oldest (18 later this month) has walked away from the Lord and chooses work over church consistently. More difficult is that my husband and I disagree on how to handle this. Since I know my husband is ultimately the head of household (and thus also bears the heavy responsibility if he is wrong), I submit to him on this.

    He and my son think alike, and so I have to trust. It’s an exercise in trust for me because I know not trusting my husband to lead is the same as not trusting God to lead him! My prayer is that both my men will hear God and that I will obey cheerfully and trust God with the outcome.

    Goodness knows I’ve plenty of examples of times I thought I was right beyond any doubt and it turned out I was dead wrong…
    Whew – sorry for the book! Guess this post struck a nerve…

      1. Agreed. Our enemy has had centuries to master the art of distraction. That’s why we all so desperately need to seek refuge in the Ancient of Days who can resist him and bring us out of the fire!

        Lord, guide Your children as parents, as husbands and wives, and as Your ambassadors in this world wherever You place us. Keep our minds fixed on You and incline our hearts to Your ways no matter what may tempt or distract us. For our children, capture their hearts and keep them from the evil one. You alone can save, and we believe You for the saving of our young people today and always, amen.

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