Christmas Pain

So many of us are in over our heads with holiday festivities…buying gifts, attending parties, getting ready for the big day. Others are experiencing the opposite.

In December 2013, I was the guy experiencing the opposite. My ex-wife and I had just separated, and I got to “borrow” the kids until the middle of Christmas Day. I was in a place where I had little emotional support, and I was alone on Christmas night for the first time in my life at the age of 33. Watch a Hallmark movie? No way! They had happy endings. My life sucked at the time. I lived in a church-owned house, was no longer the pastor, and I needed to pack so I could be out within the next week and a half. I had no one to help.

Five years later, I am doing so much better. Although I am doing alright, I am keenly aware that many are where I was in 2013 – depressed and feeling like life is over. If you are not there, reach out to someone who is. You don’t know what a phone call, visit, or some kind gesture will do. For me, it meant the world. Shine some light in a dark place this Christmas!

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8 thoughts on “Christmas Pain

  1. Proverbs 27:14 talks of loudly blessing a neighbor too early in the morning and it being taken as a curse. If Christmas was around in Solomon’s time, he could have added the season as a corollary. Too cheerfully greeting people at Christmas who are hurting can be insensitive, but in many cases, how can you tell?

  2. Thanks for posting this Matt. It’s so good to see others becoming more sensitive to this! I’ve been finding the last few weeks difficult and I usually enjoy Christmas. I recently opened up the opportunity for people to message me their sadness this season. The stories that people share are really just heartbreaking! But it was such a privilege to share their burdens and pray for them. That what the body of Christ is for!

  3. Such a poignant reminder for those who are not doing okay, I’m really glad you posted this. I’m glad you’re in a better place, and I hope you continue ‘onwards and upwards’, as they say. Depression is one hell of a fight, and it helps to know you’re not alone.
    Caz xx

  4. Your testimony is a blessing to many people who are hurting. This is the time that we need to reach out to those who are hurting. I believe God can lead us to those who truely needs our help. God bless you and keep up the good work.

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